I am (at least in my own mind) an official Rah-Rah Girl! for all things passion, but it seems lately that the things I love the most have fallen scarily low on my priority scale. Happiness is a Necessity. I’ve already declared it a done damn deal, but for some reason I keep allowing things to get in the way – one of the reasons my posts have been so sparse. Slowly I’ve been working on a free mini-course and it WILL be out soon so look out for it, but today I would like to offer you up a completely raw and unedited excerpt from another project that was put on the back-burner. I would love to hear your feedback! Let me know if this is something that resonates with you and if you’d like to see more like it. Thank and love you all dearly!
Loving You Always,
On the acknowledgement and acceptance of vulnerability:
Vulnerability exists. It happens, and it’s hard. There, I said it with no apologies. I still creep back to the old stories I used to live on from time to time and I even get mad at myself for not leaving myself fully open, but not as much as I used to.
The first step is truly acknowledgment. Say hello to your vulnerability and give it a big hug or a high-five, whatever you need to do to cozy up to it because it’s your new best friend.
Now that you’re all acquainted, it’s time to get a little more real. What are your limiting beliefs on vulnerability?
You have 10 words or less finish the statement or answer the questions. Go:
Being vulnerable means:
Being invulnerable means:
If I am vulnerable:
If I am invulnerable:
When was the last time I felt vulnerable?
Did this impact me negatively?
If so, did I learn anything from the experience?
How would my life be today if I was completely invulnerable?
Would I be happier?
What is the happiest moment of your life?
Where can I start being more vulnerable today?
Oh I love a good cliché, don’t you? Balk at them if you like, but they exist for a reason. Tried and true, counselors everywhere will tell you acceptance is the first step to admitting you have a problem. Without acceptance and acknowledgment you are powerless to change anything because you haven’t given any credence to the fact that this thing exists. Refusing to accept vulnerability will lead you down a very ugly road. Look back to a time where you wouldn’t open yourself up to a person, a possibility, or love, or abundance. How did you feel about yourself? I know that every time I have shut myself down out of fear of being hurt, taking a risk and failing huge, or not being enough I was greeted with shame and regret because I shoulda-woulda-coulda done this or that.
Look, vulnerability is not just a tool that can enhance or jar your life – it is an inevitability. There are times you get to choose whether or not and there are times you will become vulnerable against your will, but like everything else in life the numero uno fact that determines whether this is friend or foe are the choices you make surrounding it. Choose to be invulnerable and shut down all of the time, and you may start to feel a burden or a certain sense of shame, “Why can’t I let anyone in?”. As life happens we sometimes become vulnerable without much of a choice it seems; you begin to run through “Why did I let myself fall that fast?” ‘Why did I just leave my job with no safety net?” “Why did I invest my last pennies in that cockamamie scheme?”. In either regret fear, shame, and regret start creeping in slowly
You can “get by” without ever accepting your vulnerability; you can live a perfectly safe, sub-contented life without the battles and the scars that vulnerability can leave. Being vulnerable is hard in the beginning, but it is even harder to continue to make the choice to be open to life and all of its possibilities as time goes on things happen. Bad things, crappy things, sometimes tragic things happen. This is just a fact of life; your power lies in the choices you make after the proverbial poo hits the fan. You didn’t come here for easy, you didn’t come here because you are perfectly happy where you are; you wanted something more, something real.
Embrace your vulnerability; it is one major birthplace of miraculous things. I would wager money that most of the happiest, most fulfilling, abundant moments that you have ever had have come from a time you made the decision to be vulnerable. Think back to people you admire that seem so joyful and flowing, who just seem to get good things “thrown” at them, they don’t just accept but embrace their vulnerability. Energy of any kind, good or bad, has to be able to pass through you and when you close yourself off and build up those walls good energy can become stagnant and dwindle and bad energy becomes stagnant as well, but bad energy tends to fester and turn. Without vulnerability there is very little, if any flow. So how do you expect good things to come to you?
- Vulnerability. (silhouettedreamer.wordpress.com)
- Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (mariamosqueda.wordpress.com)
- Vulnerability: Do We Have Enough? (thoughthouseblog.wordpress.com)
- Why be vulnerable? (familyconnectionscoaching.com)