Carry Peace With You

Sometimes I just need to get lost. On these days I get together a picnic, throw on some tennis shoes, and either disappear into the woods or run through open fields.  When the world is moving too fast and humanity seems to be showing only its darkest bits nature is just like a good old friend – we pick right back up where we left off. The reverence and solitude soothe my soul and my tired mind. I feel free.

It’s all too easy to feel light and enlightened beneath an open sky; free to wander and wonder without the constraints of time or any obligation to serve the whims of the world.  My religion is love, the forest is my cathedral, the open meadows are my altar. There is no darkness to reflect with no one around me and so I feel only light. Life, love, and light swirl around me. I’m there, like, really there and present. It’s enough to let me forget for just a little while.

I pray. This is where I hear most clearly.
I pray to expand. 
I pray to reflect the light I see in others instead of the crap.
I pray to let go of A LOT. Pain. Clinging. Regret. Overwhelm. Bullshit in general.

I leave feeling renewed, in touch, and just plain ol’ good. I lay my pretty little head down on my pillows and have such sweet dreams. Ahhhhh, Zen.

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Live hard love hard, Kiera Dailey quote

Then the alarm clock rings and I’m right back in the thick of it. The job is calling, social media is churning, traffic is halted. Overloaded. Overwhelmed. Overstimulated. Crap, I forgot to let go of resentment!

Chants, affirmations, meditation, soul-finding road trips, getting lost in the woods – all for naught if you can’t find a way to carry that peace with you when you find your way back to the world. You need a spiritual tool set, not some pretty new age distractions.

Some moments will be harder than others to get through and you might lose it a little, but that’s okay. It’s a process and there is a learning curve.

When you’re unwinding or finding yourself or reminding yourself to return to love take a deep breath and really take stock of how you’re feeling in that moment (or hour or weekend). Return to that feeling when things are running amok.

What is your favorite way to unwind?

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“You don’t need a vacation when there’s nothing to escape from.” Thank you, Mr. AZ

“It amazes me that most people spend more time planning next summer’s vacation than they do planning the rest of their lives.”
Patricia Fripp

I do it too – spend so much time talking the fantastical things that I want to do that I miss out on everyday opportunities to that are equally fantastical. I’ve made leaps and bounds in this department. If all miracles are equal in abundance and greatness then all opportunities for awesome be equal abundance in greatness, at least this is how it works in my mind.

I have a dream adventure – I’ve planned it out, I talk about it, I even Pinned it out once upon a time. I know exactly how much time and money I would have to put towards it – it isn’t in the cards this month unless I win the lottery or receive a mysterious large sum of money I’m sure you’ve thought about it too.

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” You don’t need a vacation when there’s nothing to escape from.”
Jason Mraz

I’m a gushing fan of designing your own perfection (perfect hour, morning, afternoon, or whole damn day) because I truly believe that happiness should be is at your fingertips whenever you choose to grasp it.

What do you have planned for yourself tomorrow? Or next month? Or next year? What would your life look like if you took the same sense of control and clarity you get planning out a vacation and applied that to planning out your life? You are a co-author of your own life and it is proven that people who feel they have a sense of control over their life are generally happier.

Awareness is key. Are your experiences reinforcing a sense of helplessness or empowerment? Does your day-to-day routine lift you up or hold you suspended in air? Everyone has an end game, somewhere they want to be, are your choices leading you closer to or further from where you want to be?

You were not brought here suffer, you learn it somewhere along the way. We all do. There is every chance for joy wherever you look if only you’d open your gorgeous eyes. There is every reason to smile. There is every reason to shimmy.

There will be crappy days, days that seem to go on for months. There will be broken hearts, bloody noses, and deaths. Everyday can’t be the best day of your life, but the hard things feel so much more crippling when you don’t feel control over your consciousness.

Two If’s:

If you could do one thing right now to practice control over your life no matter how small (any action is a quantum leap) what would it be?

If you’re not in control of your life, then who are you giving the reigns to?

We Were Here

True change begins with an un-learning. The only thing we feared as children were the monsters that lurked and bumped ‘neath our bed. We were lucky, at least most of us were; we didn’t let loneliness or insignificance drive our behavior and decisions. We ran wild and free, again most of us, and look back to those days envious of the freedom of obligation, ability to create effortlessly, and to love without the thought to abandonment.
 
I recently came across this spoken word piece and it left me gob-smacked and teary eyed. “remember what we forgot?” he asks; such a simple, but evocative question with an answer that’s anything but simple.  There are times I ponder while sitting in traffic moving haltingly between a passionate life in love and intentional bliss and moving listlessly through the motions – I wonder what I would have thought of me – back then when I didn’t know the meaning of limits and my heart was wide open, unmarred by media influence and the ego’s fearful lies.
 
Would she be proud? Hurt? Disenchanted with the distant definition that “adult” came to hold? 
 
I live my life on purpose, burgeoning with love every damn day. Of course there are moments I fall, but I refuse to let my scraped knees and humbled heart grip the concrete any longer than necessary to heal and grow. Over time I have learned not to make fear my home; I’ve learned to take it easy – shit happens and mistakes are made. When this beautiful woman Kate Northrup spoke at Wanderlust she said “You can’t beat yourself up enough for (…), I can’t find myself wrong enough times to stop that behavior…”. Talk about struck a chord, that was an a-ha moment in spades. She was speaking specifically about money, but isn’t this true in every facet of life? Beating yourself up, making yourself wrong will never spur sustainable change and most certainly never elicit joy.
 
If there has been anything I’ve forgotten from my years of playing tag until dark and hustling for the latest Barney gear it is that love knows no bounds, no color, no economic background, no difference in strife and that every act from fear and hatred and exclusion and separation is equally saddening. None are better or worse.
 
What have you forgotten?

Passion Hunting! 8 Tips That Helped Me Fall In Love With Life

You can hardly look around the magazine aisle without seeing “Live the life you love” scrawled across at least a few issues of different magazines – especially women’s. What’s up? Passion seems to be the new “new age kool-aid”.

Of course it’s much deeper than hitting play on the “New Age: Greatest Hits” and I’ve noticed a kind of restlessness in the people around me. Instead of an invitation to unlock your passion, fall in love with your life, and step into your authentic power (I’m a cheerleader for you!) some see it as a kind of taunt – Why aren’t YOU living the life of your dreams?

Over coffee a friend of mine divulged her newfound desperation to break away from the malaise in her life, “Ugh I don’t even know what I like let alone my purpose. I’ve heard this a few times over from different people – different words, same feeling of overwhelm and urgency. I can’t speak for the world, but it seems people in my direct circle are desperate to grasp for more than just going through the motions.

It’s important. That “more”, that way of meeting your higher self, that way of taking yourself out of your mind touching your heart and soul – it’s so important. It’s also a process, a journey that shouldn’t be rushed and furthermore it should be FUN! The only way you’re going to know what you like and burst into what you love is by trying things so don’t get bogged down by the hugeness of it otherwise you’re kind of missing the point of reaching for bliss in the first place.

Here are a few tiddly bits to help keep you going (or get you started):

1.       Almost always, that thing you’ve been looking for is somehow incorporated into your life already.

I love, love and compassion and solving helping people see love and compassion everywhere. I also love problem solving and giving advice and people seem to trust me inherently. This past year I decided to pursue life coaching and will begin reaching for certification at the beginning of next year. What are you doing right now – no matter how little – that flips your happy into high gear?

2.       You have to try things. Passionate lives don’t just appear to those resting on their laurels.

I have had a mess of jobs that have put me in all different kind of positions and used up all of my different abilities. I take chances and put myself in situations and around people who make my best shine. Like people? Volunteer. Like athleticism? Learn the flying trapeze. Get out and do things, not only will you figure out what you do and don’t like, you’ll be around people that aren’t just waiting for life to come to them – which is exactly where you want to be.

3.       Be grateful for every little thing.

Yes, I get it your life could be a little better, but I can damn near guarantee you that the best way to move toward the passionate in love life you want is to be grateful for what you have right now. It’s not your dream job, but you have one. Your legs aren’t taking you up mountains right now, but they walked you to the corner store. Want more opportunities to pursue passion and get really turned on by life? Look for the little ways that the universe is reaching out to you RIGHT NOW.

4.       Let go of your expectations.

We, myself included (well, sometimes), get so caught up in what the outcome looks like. I thought being a lawyer would be the career of my dreams at one point, but with the hours and mountains of paperwork and research, the backstabbing, the lying – that just wasn’t in line with who I became. I would have never fallen in love with my life now if I held onto what my life was “supposed” to look like.

5.       Don’t take yourself, or anything, else so seriously.

Obviously, apply this where appropriate. I used to think that every little thing was the end of the world. No really, every.little,thing. Each problem that popped up was something that couldn’t possibly be rectified painlessly, every change was a threat to my comfort. You’re lovely, but get over it because the world isn’t coming crashing down. Learn to laugh, you’ll thank me.

6.       Be open.

This is semi-supplemental to Tip #4, but it’s vital to living the life you love especially if you don’t know what that looks like. Your job is to be open and put forth effort by trying new things, finding gratitude wherever possible, and letting go of the blocks that keep you where you don’t want to be – this takes a healthy dose of that scary “V” word – vulnerability. Don’t eschew things just because you think you won’t like it – especially if you’re basing that on what you’ve heard from so-and-so.

7.       Fall in love with the life you have now.

Again this is semi-supplemental (Tip #3), but it’s a slightly different, equally huge piece of the puzzle. You’re working on manifesting a passionate life, i.e. you are a co-author. It’s time to take responsibility for your own happiness and lend your hand to creating a life you want. In order to attract more of the good stuff you have to accept where you are now and love it. Love the journey!

8.       Be intentionally passionate and present.

This is an obvious, but often overlooked roadblock – open up those pretty little peepers! This tip is really broken down into two nuggets: 1.) Pursue passion – be passionate on purpose! You may get lucky and it may just bite you on the nose, but more often than not passion is a thing that you have to look for (even if it is right under your nose!). 2.) You cannot be trudging around in the past or future and worrying your days away about things that don’t really matter because you can’t control them. You have to be up front and mentally (soulfully!) present. How else will you see what is being offered to you?

Happy passion hunting!

Loving you always,

Kiera

Reprioritizing Passion

I am (at least in my own mind) an official Rah-Rah Girl! for all things passion, but it seems lately that the things I love the most have fallen scarily low on my priority scale. Happiness is a Necessity. I’ve already declared it a done damn deal, but for some reason I keep allowing things to get in the way – one of the reasons my posts have been so sparse. Slowly I’ve been working on a free mini-course and it WILL be out soon so look out for it, but today I would like to offer you up a completely raw and unedited excerpt from another project that was put on the back-burner. I would love to hear your feedback! Let me know if this is something that resonates with you and if you’d like to see more like it. Thank and love you all dearly!

Loving You Always,

Kiera

On the acknowledgement and acceptance of vulnerability:

Acknowledgment

Vulnerability exists. It happens, and it’s hard. There, I said it with no apologies. I still creep back to the old stories I used to live on from time to time and I even get mad at myself for not leaving myself fully open, but not as much as I used to.

The first step is truly acknowledgment. Say hello to your vulnerability and give it a big hug or a high-five, whatever you need to do to cozy up to it because it’s your new best friend.

Now that you’re all acquainted, it’s time to get a little more real. What are your limiting beliefs on vulnerability?

You have 10 words or less finish the statement or answer the questions. Go:

Being vulnerable means:

Being invulnerable means:

If I am vulnerable:

If I am invulnerable:

When was the last time I felt vulnerable?

Did this impact me negatively?

If so, did I learn anything from the experience?

How would my life be today if I was completely invulnerable?

Would I be happier?

What is the happiest moment of your life?

Where can I start being more vulnerable today?

Acceptance

Oh I love a good cliché, don’t you? Balk at them if you like, but they exist for a reason. Tried and true, counselors everywhere will tell you acceptance is the first step to admitting you have a problem. Without acceptance and acknowledgment you are powerless to change anything because you haven’t given any credence to the fact that this thing exists. Refusing to accept vulnerability will lead you down a very ugly road. Look back to a time where you wouldn’t open yourself up to a person, a possibility, or love, or abundance. How did you feel about yourself? I know that every time I have shut myself down out of fear of being hurt, taking a risk and failing huge, or not being enough I was greeted with shame and regret because I shoulda-woulda-coulda done this or that.

Look, vulnerability is not just a tool that can enhance or jar your life – it is an inevitability. There are times you get to choose whether or not and there are times you will become vulnerable against your will, but like everything else in life the numero uno fact that determines whether this is friend or foe are the choices you make surrounding it. Choose to be invulnerable and shut down all of the time, and you may start to feel a burden or a certain sense of shame, “Why can’t I let anyone in?”.  As life happens we sometimes become vulnerable without much of a choice it seems; you begin to run through “Why did I let myself fall that fast?” ‘Why did I just leave my job with no safety net?” “Why did I invest my last pennies in that cockamamie scheme?”. In either regret fear, shame, and regret start creeping in slowly

You can “get by” without ever accepting your vulnerability; you can live a perfectly safe, sub-contented life without the battles and the scars that vulnerability can leave. Being vulnerable is hard in the beginning, but it is even harder to continue to make the choice to be open to life and all of its possibilities as time goes on things happen. Bad things, crappy things, sometimes tragic things happen. This is just a fact of life; your power lies in the choices you make after the proverbial poo hits the fan. You didn’t come here for easy, you didn’t come here because you are perfectly happy where you are; you wanted something more, something real.

Embrace your vulnerability; it is one major birthplace of miraculous things. I would wager money that most of the happiest, most fulfilling, abundant moments that you have ever had have come from a time you made the decision to be vulnerable. Think back to people you admire that seem so joyful and flowing, who just seem to get good things “thrown” at them, they don’t just accept but embrace their vulnerability. Energy of any kind, good or bad, has to be able to pass through you and when you close yourself off and build up those walls good energy can become stagnant and dwindle and bad energy becomes stagnant as well, but bad energy tends to fester and turn. Without vulnerability there is very little, if any flow. So how do you expect good things to come to you?