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Why Giving It Up and Giving Up Aren’t the Same Thing

Surrender is sacred. It’s magic.

And there comes a time to lay everything down on the line and just give it all up. You’re restless as fuck. You’re burnt out on a life of settling and hoofing it down a conventional path. You want something more than comfortable; you’re out on the limb ready to pluck happiness from the tree. It’s there right in front of you, but you’re holding on too tightly to comfort so you can’t quite reach. If only you would let go, surrender to faith, and stomach the seconds of discomfort – you would no doubt reach it.

A Course in Miracles teaches that if you experience overwhelm, you are trying to take on everything yourself. Give it all up. Put it in the hands of the Universe or God or Buddha – whomever or whatever form of divinity that you are drawn to. Surrender. Before the broken hearts and debt and psychotic breaks. And once you think you’ve surrendered everything – surrender some more.

Don’t eschew faith as a crutch or the easy way out. Comfort is easy even if it’s miserable. But faith, surrender, can be so damn uncomfortable and hard. Faith under bliss is the easy part; the heart and soul of it doesn’t appear until your ass is in the fire. Let go of comfort. Let go of your way. Let go of the need for control. This is all fight, no flight. Surrender is not the same as quitting; there is no room for shame here.

It’s a hard road to joy, but every force in the universe is vying for you to get what you want. It’s up to you to choose that that is. If you fully choose joy, if you move your feet and pray, if you step fully into your truth (your power), well you just bet your sweet ass that you will have what you want – though it may not be what you expect.

In deep breaths, in prayers, in rituals, in tears, in whatever way you need. Let go and let God.

Love Always,

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New Year Part Deux: I’m Walking in Empty

And now one about walking into 2016.

I’m walking in empty. There are no resolutions to be found here. Sure there are things that I would like to see come to pass, but it has nothing to do with that half-hearted and short-lived annual goal planning.

I’m not short on faith. Or love. Or light.

But I do plan on walking into this year empty.
I’m walking in empty of my attachments to that certain outcome.
I’m walking in empty of complacency.
Empty of heart aching. Empty of the weight of the past year.
Empty of half-hearted yeses and settling. Empty of give-a-damns about societal norms.
Empty of the will to chase.
And just plain ol’ empty of the flotsam jetsam from the trials of living.

No reason to hold on.

I’m emptying all of that out to make space.
Instead of holding on to my way, I’m making space for divine miracles.
Instead of complacency, I’m making space for full presence and passion.
Instead of heart ache, I’m making space for compliment.
Instead of the weight of the past year, I’m making space for the many, many, many blessings to come… forever.
Instead of settling, I’m making space for all of the spine-tingling, lusty, awe-inspiring HELL YESES.
Instead of wasting my fucks on societal norms, I’m making space for, well… me.
Instead of chasing, I’m making space for receiving.
And instead of detritus, I’m making space what I treasure most – those I love.

My walking into 2016 empty is intentional and joyous.

I’m empty because I’m burnt out on conventional knowledge being my means to an end.
I’m empty because my way should be in alignment with divine way.
I’m empty because all of that crap that I couldn’t throw away and all of the stories I cleaved to took up the space in my heart and head and life that magic should have held.

I have this kind of feeling that the last two years have been setting us all up for something pure magic in the near future.

Walk into 2016 empty with me! Tell, me what are you leaving behind and what are you making space for?

Love Always,

Musings on Learning Through Joy Instead of Pain

Quite simply, we were meant to learn through joy and love, but somewhere along the way we are taught that the hardship and tragedy are what teach us the most important lessons and they become the only ones we keep. So we learn that pain is the best teacher whether ours, a close friends, a strangers – it doesn’t matter because tragedy pulls at our heartstrings and plays on our fears; it resonates with us in a way joy just doesn’t. Think of a child lovingly corrected time and again not to touch a hot stove, only when the child burns himself does he learn his lesson. Why? It’s all with good intention, we learn the lesson to avoid the pain and we teach in order to help others avoid pain.

What if there is another way?

What if we allow love, joy, laughter, community was to be a primary teacher?

What if we let miracles teach us and correct our perception of lack?

That’s a lot of what if’s, but the world isn’t built on that – this world is built on action and so the next question is “How do we put this into action?” Well, the more simple way to begin is by cultivating awareness, i.e.  learning to pay attention to those little “red flags” and niggling feelings at the pit of the stomach or bad vibes. There are so many times that we know (or maybe just have an inkling) we are getting ourselves into an unhealthy situation and we keep on pressing through because we choose to ignore the signs that are being thrown to our attention; the spirit is trying to gently course correct do yourself a favor and pay attention.

  • Learn your “signs”. Think about anytime you just *knew* something was off, what did it feel like? Were you restless? Nervous? Did your stomach twitch? Did your heart ache? Listen to your body, it a first line defense.
  • Trust yourself. If you feel like something is dicey, don’t just ride it out because you think you’re being paranoid.
  • Build your relationship with your higher power/inner-guide. You need to know HOW the Universe communicates to you.
  • Trust your higher power/inner-guide to take care of you and then, wait for it… shut your mouth, open your heart, and LISTEN.
  • Stick with it, your intuition is a muscle – the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Pain can strengthen us, but so can love. Teaching and learning from a place of avoidance still focuses on pain and still attracts pain. When we allow ourselves to be corrected through love instead of enduring hardship and pain to get the point across we teach those around us to do the same and they teach those around them. The whole world learning through love, isn’t that a beautiful thought?

How will you shift your perception of life lessons? Will you invite love to be your guide rather than just avoidance of pain?

Stop Searching – You Already Have What You Need

I’m not sure why, but I felt moved to speak about fruitless searching:

Not the looking for the last green skittle kind of searching,

the kind of searching that takes you to external sources for love, joy, peace, whatever it is you seek.

It is both senseless and fruitless.

There may be fleeting success,

a moment of comfort,

but it will be just that – fleeting.

Unless you are able to accept that

you are the source of your love, joy, peace, abundance – whatever

it will always seem to be just out of reach.

It is my belief that

you are of the universe

and the universe is of you.

If the universe is the Source

of all love, joy, and peace

then you too, must be the Source

of your love, joy, and peace.

Your searching need not take you any further

than the front steps of your alter

and a simple prayer.

For all of the comfort that you receive from the tangible

will perish as sure as the tangible thing itself

will one day be no more.

Take a deep breath now.

Turn your gaze inward and allow all of that goodness to shine through.

Now that’s the stuff.